Husband of ONE wife

March 27, 2012 · 3 comments

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When you got married your husband might have really married two or three women:

1 – The woman he thought he was marrying,

2 – The woman he really married, and/or

3 – The woman who God is growing you to be as he conforms you to the image of his Son


Lord willing, your husband would have thought that the woman he really married is the woman who God is growing in grace!

Because of God’s grace in Christ, we don’t have to live in fear of the reality that we will, sooner or later, fail to be an excellent wife.

Instead, we can rejoice in hope that God is not a procrastinator and he will finish the good work he’s started in us.

“Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” Romans 5:1-5


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1 Tim March 27, 2012 at 7:59 pm

Ha! Good insights for husbands in their role too, as we consider who it is our wives married. God knows of my failures, and I know he is my Redeemer through it all!



2 Holly March 29, 2012 at 6:47 am

My husband proposed to me using Proverbs 31, declaring me (in his blissful ignorance) to be that woman. Now here we are, 7 years later, and I’m more sure than ever that I am NOT that woman! :) When I look at photos of our wedding, I am blown away at how much we’ve both changed, not only physically but mostly who we are as individuals. I am so grateful for God’s grace that has changed us so much… neither of us is the same person we married! He is so very faithful. I’m excited for more.


3 Jessalyn March 29, 2012 at 11:58 pm

This is great… it reminds me of “What Did You Expect” (Paul Tripp). I was so struck by the idea in that book of us marrying the people we “think” we know, and then actually growing in our understanding of them as we grow closer to one another. It is therefore pivotal, as you mentioned in this post to have the gospel truth as our center, for then we know that our spouse however messed up they (I) am is growing into greater Christ-likeness every day. Praise God!


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